Selena Gomez: My Mind and Me

Yeah, I’m constantly
Tryna fight somethin’ that my eyes can’t see


My mind and me
We don’t get along sometimes
And it gets hard to breathe
But I wouldn’t change my life
And all of the crashin’ and burnin’ and breakin’, I know now
If somebody sees me like this, then they won’t feel alone now

My Mind & Me (lyrics) – Selena Gomez

SHIFTING THE CONVERSATION

With the release of her new single and documentary, both titled My Mind and Me, Selena Gomez brings to light the parts of “mental health” conversations that are typically left in the shadows. Countless articles have been published on concepts like self-care chock-full of advice like “take more bubble baths” or “go for a daily run”. What happens when we venture beyond the spectrum of a little bit of anxiety or sadness? What about severe mental illness, cases in which just lifestyle changes or bubble baths are insufficient?

While numerous celebrities have opened up about certain conditions (e.g., eating disorders, depression, anxiety), other conditions and symptoms are frequently left out of the conversation (e.g., Bipolar Disorder, psychosis). Suicidality is also mentioned on occasion, but often far too late, such as in the news of a celebrity’s passing. What excited me about this documentary was that it tackles mental illness in a raw, realistic way. Not only does it have a realistic approach, it also addresses Bipolar Disorder, psychosis, and suicidality. Given that misconceptions and stigma continue to persist around these topics, having someone with Selena’s platform address them has the potential to create a seismic shift in mental health conversations, beyond conversations that tend to stick to surface-level, comfortable, fluffy topics.

RECOVERY IS NOT LINEAR

SPOILER ALERT: The end of the documentary doesn’t get wrapped up in a neat little “Happy Ever After” ending. While this may sound like it would be sad for those who relate to her or have bipolar disorder (also known as manic-depressive illness), I actually appreciate this approach. Too often, mental health journeys are portrayed in a pollyannaish manner. The typical approach is artificially optimistic. The individual’s journey is portrayed in oversimplified terms as if recovery is linear, such as the following:

A) Get symptoms.

B) Go to a mental health professional.

C) Get an accurate diagnosis on the first try.

D) Try out a treatment. Yay, the first one you tried works great! No need to mess around with type, combination, or dosage. No side effects!

E) Get better ASAP. Go back to “normal” and being a “high-functioning” individual, as if mental health concerns are just a part of the past.

F) Live happily ever after.

The popular narrative overlooks the complexity of treatment on so many levels. It also actually has the potential to add to the hopelessness of viewers who feel a major disconnect between that simple, happy narrative and their own experiences. There is a myriad of barriers that prevent recovery from being “linear” in real-life scenarios.

This could be due to:

  • Cultural beliefs (e.g., shame around seeking mental health treatment)
  • Stigma (i.e., self-stigma, public stigma)
  • Financial barriers (e.g., insurance, cost)
  • Lack of access (e.g., lack of availability of local providers)
  • Fear of professional consequences (licensing board discrimination; hiring practice discrimination)
  • Ableism
  • Symptom severity
  • Recurrence of episodes
  • Treatment-resistant conditions
  • Misdiagnosis
  • Medications that stop working for whatever reason
  • Issues with finding the right medication/therapy/combination/dosage
  • Severe side effects
  • Comorbidities

Need I go on?

Her documentary shows that even Selena Gomez, a celebrity with infinite resources at her disposal, struggled [and continues to struggle] with her recovery. I appreciate the strength it took to be this vulnerable with her audience. She addresses the challenges with treatment. Selena also acknowledges that even with these resources, the road ahead remains uncertain.

She may not have ‘reached the other side’ of her battle… and she might not. Part of the challenge of accepting Bipolar Disorder is acknowledging that this is not some temporary problem. This is a life-long condition. There may be a lot of pain associated with accepting this reality, but there is also some degree of comfort in finally having an explanation behind all of the ups, downs, and emotional torment. A diagnosis is a critical step forward.

FINDING PURPOSE

“There’s something very powerful in what she’s doing, not just for other people, but for Selena herself… When you struggle with mental-health concerns, it can erode your sense of self, your own self-esteem, and then it makes it harder and harder to reach out to other people, and so you enter this downward spiral of loneliness and isolation. Service has the power to break that cycle.”

Rolling Stone article, Surgeon General Vivek Murthy

As someone with Bipolar Disorder (Type 1), I appreciate the vulnerability and openness used in her documentary. Selena is continuing to find her purpose and pursue it: service. As someone who has spent many hours focused on educating others about mental health, particularly bipolar disorder and lived experience, I love the direction she has taken with her journey. She used this experience as an opportunity to enlighten and support people, lifting the voices of others and looking for ways to help the general public become more informed about mental health wellness.

I wish her the best with the road ahead and cannot wait to see how she continues to use her platform to impact the mental health field.

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