A social support system for someone going through something like this is ESSENTIAL.
What is not helpful is phrases which minimize the depression or mania or situation as a whole, such as…
I’m not the best person to tell this stuff to.
Why don’t you talk to your parents?
I have a lot going on where I can’t just sit down and talk. There are PEOPLE for that…
Answer me RIGHT NOW!
You have a serious problem that you need help with.
Stop obsessing with what Dr. X did and did not do. It’s over and done with.
Doctors mess up. they mess up all the time. Its unfortunate and we have to pay for it… I’m sure she is a good doctor. She has been doing this for a long time…
She had a major hiccup, which is unacceptable, but it happens
Get over it.
Talk to someone new.
It’s awful and yes, sometimes deadly. It sucks. Stop talking about her and move on.
It’s over and done with.
What do you want me to do? I can’t do anything. I’m sorry.
I can’t chit chat all day.
Stop with the suicidal talk too
You know better than this.
You FUCKING KNOW.
I’m trying to talk some sense into you.
I am extremely busy.
Stop arguing with me.
I was tired.
I can’t help.
I’m no use and it hurts hearing about these things.
I can’t deal with it.
I don’t know how to help you and I suck talking about this.
Don’t call me insensitive.
Did you ever think about that I don’t WANT to hear or talk about such things?
You were overreacting and I did not appreciate it.
Yes, I would have called you back.